Anxiety: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Anxiety?

While anxiety is just one of many emotions that one can experience throughout their life and without too many problems arising, it can also be something that ends up being completely out of control. It is then not just another emotion that one can experience; it is something that can end up defining ones whole life.

Fear for example, is something that can help or hinder one’s life. If fear was removed from someone and they didn’t have the ability to feel it, it would be dangerous. They would end up doing things that are far from safe and it probably wouldn’t be long until their life would come to an end.

When fear is in its rightful place and not out of control, it will allow one to survive. To instinctively know if something is safe or not is vital for ones survival and not something that should be resisted.

And yet if one was in a constant state of fear, their life is not going to be too pleasant either. To be in this position could cause one to be paralysed with fear and their whole life would then come to a standstill. Life would not be something that one embraces and therefore enjoys; it would be something they do their best to avoid.

Out Of Control

So emotions are not negative per se, but they can end up limiting ones quality of life, if they end up being out of control. If one is being controlled by their emotions and not experiencing any kind of self control, then there will be problems.

For one to be in a place of constant happiness and joy is not likely to be seen as ‘negative’ at first glance. However, to be this way all the time could cause one to overlook parts of their life and to even deny certain problems that arise in their life.

Today’s Problems

This would not be healthy and yet there are probably more people in the world today that are stuck when it comes to seeing life in a ‘negative’ way, than people who are stuck when it comes to seeing life in a ‘positive’ way.

And this is surely why fear and anxiety is something that is high on the list of what are described as being mental and emotional problems. And not people who suffer from being overly happy or joyful for instance.

Different Areas

Anxiety is something that one can experience more or less all of the time or it can be something that only appears in certain situations. And even when there is nothing going on externally and one is an environment that is reasonably safe for instance, it can still appear.

So this means that while there may be an external reason for its appearance, it can also appear without anyone being around and as a result of what is going on in their mind and body.

And while anxiety can be something one experiences most of the time, it can also appear: just before one has an exam, in social situations, when it comes to talking to the opposite sex and around authority figures.

Anxiety

When anxiety is experienced, one is going to find that their breathing rate increases. Panic to one degree or another will appear, as will the feeling of being overwhelmed. This is not an experience where one is going to feel a sense of control or personal power.

One’s mind is going to create all kinds of scenarios, as well as different thoughts. But these thoughts could end up being crowded out by how one feels. So the whole thing could end up being more of an emotional experience than a mental one.

One Approach

Thoughts are often said to create how one feels and based on this outlook, it would then be important for one to change how they think. Through doing this, they would be able to either lower their anxiety or stop it from appearing altogether.

And for some people this will work and that will be the end of it. But what this doesn’t look at is what is going on at a deeper level. Because even though so much attention has been placed on our thoughts when it comes to our level of mental and emotional health, inherently, we are emotional beings.

Survival

How we feel can also define how we think and out thoughts are not always in control. Anxiety is similar to anger, in that, it is there to warn someone that their survival is under threat or that it could be.

So when one is in an environment where this is the case, anxiety is doing what it needs to do and that is to keep one alive. However, when ones survival is not under threat and they still feel anxious, it is clear that something else is going on.

Trapped Emotions

The body can carry trapped emotions and this can be due to one experiencing some kind of trauma. And as the trauma was never processed, it has stayed in their body.

This could have been in their adult life or through what happened during their childhood years. It doesn’t have to be something that was extremely traumatising, as it could relate to something that was fairly mild and yet gradually wore one down.

So time has passed and their mind might have even forgotten about what happened, but their body remembers and still carries the emotional pain and therefore continues to experience life in the same way. And these trapped emotions will define how one interprets their reality.

Going Deeper

Under the anxiety could be the feeling of being powerless, that one has no control and even that they are going to die, amongst others; with these feelings being held just above their stomach. For if one didn’t feel this way and felt a sense of power, there is unlikely to be the need to feel so anxious.

And these feelings can seem completely out of place based on ones current environment. But if one was to see get in touch with what happened to them in their past, these feelings could be normal and expected.

Awareness

So as these trapped emotions are released from their body, their anxiety levels are likely to change. And this can be done with the assistance of a therapist or a healer who will allow one to get in touch with their emotions and gradually release them.

Boundaries: How Can People React When We Form Boundaries For The First Time?

Although it is vital for human begins to have boundaries, it doesn’t mean that they always have them. And this could be the case with some areas of their life or it could apply to each and every area of their life.

Ultimately, boundaries protect ones personal space and therefore stop others from doing things that could cause them harm. This doesn’t mean that one will never feel compromised or violated, but through having boundaries, these kinds of experiences are likely to occur a lot less often.

One doesn’t have to live in an environment that is war torn or extremely hostile for instance, in order to be around people who will cause them to feel violated in one way or another. Someone could do something that is not intended to take advantage of another and they could end up feeling this way.

Individual Differences

And this is largely because each one of us is different and therefore feels comfortable with different things. What would be classed as acceptable to one person or in a certain culture might not be acceptable to another person or another culture.

But without even bringing different cultures into this, there are clear differences within the same culture. So one person could have absolutely no intention of infringing on another person space and yet that’s exactly what happens.

While there can be certain things that are generally recognised as inappropriate, there are going to be many others things that are personal and the average person might have no idea as to what these are.

Speaking Up

This is why it is so important that one speaks up and stands their ground during these moments. Another person might be doing something on purpose or they might be completely oblivious, but as long as one notifies the other person, then there is a greater chance that they will stop.

Some people might carry on regardless and if this is the case, alternate action will need to be taken; from evasive action, to help from the authorities. However, when this relates to minor or accidental behaviour from others, the need to be assertive will arise.

Pleasing Others

And in order to do this, one must have their needs at the forefront of their mind and not the needs of another. If one is focused on pleasing another and on not causing any problems for example, then they might let another person walk all over them.

So one must value themselves and their own wellbeing or they could allow another to harm them, just to avoid being rejected or abandoned. This doesn’t mean that being assertive is about one becoming aggressive or manipulative.

Assertive

What it does mean is that one will protect themselves in a way that causes minimal damage to others. In the majority of cases another person won’t be harmed, but if one was in a situation that had put their life or the lives of the people around them at risk, then one might need to go further.

However, it will typically be non violent and will be just be a way for one to look after their own being.

Conflict

So if one already has boundaries and the people around them are aware of this, then there are not going to be many surprises. That is unless one goes into a new environment, but then the people in this new environment might not know what to expect.

When it comes to someone who hasn’t had boundaries and then begins to develop them, the people around them could be in for a big surprise. This is because they will have become comfortable with how one used to behave and now that they are changing, it is likely to create conflict.

In The Beginning

Over time, they might adapt or it could result in the relationship ending completely; it will naturally depend on many factors. But when one has just started to assert their boundaries, there could be resistance from others.

And this is going to be from the people that one spends most of their time with and all because these people are likely to have fixed ideas about what one is or is not like. So: friends, family, their partner and colleagues for example.

Change

If one has let others walk all over them, agreed to do things they didn’t really want to do or let others touch them in ways that are inappropriate, then it is only natural that other people are going to react strongly when one no longer puts up with being treated in these ways.

As a result of one changing, there is as strong chance that the people around them will come on even stronger. This will be done to make one behave in the ways that they used to. And when this does happen, it is likely to be something that happens unconsciously and out of their awareness.

Persistence

So one will need to stand their ground and do their best not to revert to their old ways or behaving. If another continues to behave in the same way and doesn’t change, then one might need to keep their distance or cut them out of their life altogether.

Emotional Experience

On one side will be the emotional experience that one is having through standing their ground. And this could involve feelings of being abandoned and rejected. Because even though one is starting to protect their personal space and doing the right thing, it could also trigger feelings that make them feel as though their survival is at risk.

And on the other side will be the emotional experience of the people that have been used to one having no boundaries. The experience that they have could also include feelings of being rejected and abandoned.

One doesn’t need to have done either, but when one says no to things they would have said yes to, other people can end up having these feelings and taking everything personally. And the feelings they are having could go back to their childhood and be a sign that they need to emotionally separate from their caregivers.

Awareness

So when one forms boundaries for the first time there is going to be ones experience and the experience that another person has. However, one is not responsible for how other people feel and having boundaries means that one is not always going to please others.

One reason why forming boundaries can feel so difficult, even though it is healthy and functional, is due to ones history appearing. If one has not emotionally separated from their caregivers, then to separate from others is going trigger trapped feelings form their childhood that relate to their survival.

The assistance of a therapist or a healer may be required in order for one to release these trapped feelings and emotions. And as this take place, one will find it easier to stand their ground when they need to.